Comments on: Different Cultures And Marriage http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=different-cultures-and-marriage Learn about us and learn English! Sat, 23 Oct 2021 00:14:01 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: maciek http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-19875 maciek Thu, 23 Oct 2014 19:30:31 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-19875 What comes to my mind is that there should be someone that prevents people to get married, sort of make them give it a second thought. No wonder that so many couples decide to get divorce if they were allowed to get married so easily in the first place. The more so we should allow them to get divorced. There is nothing worse than being forced to live with someone you do not want to live with. When it comes to preventing people from getting divorce I think it is pointless. If silly argument gets couple to decide on it, it means that this relationship is not worthwhile. Unfortunately in my country divorces are not very common but it seems to change a bit. Most couple tend to live together even though they have nothing in common - often just because of lack of financial independence. Therefore most people are convicted to themselves. Once they have assets to live on their own they will have no hesitation to leave their spouses. Needless to say that for me there is no point in preventing people from getting divorce. It is better to teach the youngest ones how to make repsonsible decisons, decisions you would not regret. What comes to my mind is that there should be someone that prevents people to get married, sort of make them give it a second thought. No wonder that so many couples decide to get divorce if they were allowed to get married so easily in the first place. The more so we should allow them to get divorced. There is nothing worse than being forced to live with someone you do not want to live with. When it comes to preventing people from getting divorce I think it is pointless. If silly argument gets couple to decide on it, it means that this relationship is not worthwhile. Unfortunately in my country divorces are not very common but it seems to change a bit. Most couple tend to live together even though they have nothing in common – often just because of lack of financial independence. Therefore most people are convicted to themselves. Once they have assets to live on their own they will have no hesitation to leave their spouses. Needless to say that for me there is no point in preventing people from getting divorce. It is better to teach the youngest ones how to make repsonsible decisons, decisions you would not regret.

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By: mike http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15046 mike Sun, 02 Jun 2013 13:39:31 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15046 Obviously, it depends its result, if the couple back to normal, she should be encouraged otherwise, she should be blamed. It's hit or miss. BTW, it’s hard to say a divorce is right or not, sometimes it’s complicated. Divorce becomes so mediocre that marriage that only last few days may not be a big deal. But it's ridiculous that some celebrity begin to think about the divorce on their wedding party or even before the wedding. They may know the relationships probably is not going to work out, but under the peer pressure, or may be they are only excited about how luxurious the ceremony would be, or they may want to be caught up at the moment. We don’t know. Anyway, it's not easy to see through each other through out a few romantic date for someone, and almost everyone are instinctually pretending to be sweet to their partner before getting married, but the reality is that people may change , and most of us take love for granted after the marriage. That is the problem. Conclusion: Getting married is not difficult, to maintain a marriage need some sacrifice s or self-improvement because nobody is perfect. Obviously, it depends its result, if the couple back to normal, she should be encouraged otherwise, she should be blamed. It’s hit or miss.
BTW, it’s hard to say a divorce is right or not, sometimes it’s complicated. Divorce becomes so mediocre that marriage that only last few days may not be a big deal. But it’s ridiculous that some celebrity begin to think about the divorce on their wedding party or even before the wedding. They may know the relationships probably is not going to work out, but under the peer pressure, or may be they are only excited about how luxurious the ceremony would be, or they may want to be caught up at the moment. We don’t know.
Anyway, it’s not easy to see through each other through out a few romantic date for someone, and almost everyone are instinctually pretending to be sweet to their partner before getting married, but the reality is that people may change , and most of us take love for granted after the marriage. That is the problem.
Conclusion: Getting married is not difficult, to maintain a marriage need some sacrifice s or self-improvement because nobody is perfect.

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By: Gloria http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15043 Gloria Fri, 31 May 2013 06:43:03 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15043 I have been thinking about this personally. i remember my parents escaped a divorce by my father lying his ID card had been lost. it is true some women stayed in a terrible marriage for the reason of their children or economic dependence. But nowadays, women are more economically independent and they are more aware that a divorce does not necessarily mean a disaster for their children. And many young people jump into marriage recklessly without being sure that's the right person for him/her. I think that's the cause of a surging divorce rate. When they find they can't work out at all, they then jump into a divorce. I guess we need a "marraige woman" more than a "divorce woman" to let them think twice before they get married. I have been thinking about this personally. i remember my parents escaped a divorce by my father lying his ID card had been lost. it is true some women stayed in a terrible marriage for the reason of their children or economic dependence. But nowadays, women are more economically independent and they are more aware that a divorce does not necessarily mean a disaster for their children.
And many young people jump into marriage recklessly without being sure that’s the right person for him/her. I think that’s the cause of a surging divorce rate. When they find they can’t work out at all, they then jump into a divorce.
I guess we need a “marraige woman” more than a “divorce woman” to let them think twice before they get married.

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By: Viktor http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15041 Viktor Thu, 30 May 2013 21:43:03 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15041 Hi Andy, I think many of marriage have a bad reason. Peoples want to somebody in his/her life who is give safety against aloneness and satisfy the sexual desire. I suppose peoples have to more consciousness in relationships and the real purpose of marriage have to be a real unity of two person whom realy see each other. The good marriage is a share between two beings and the bad marriage is selfishness and possession and also fear. However I hadn't been married but my parents were divorced 8 years ago. I'm 33 from Hungary. Hi Andy,

I think many of marriage have a bad reason. Peoples want to somebody in his/her life who is give safety against aloneness and satisfy the sexual desire. I suppose peoples have to more consciousness in relationships and the real purpose of marriage have to be a real unity of two person whom realy see each other. The good marriage is a share between two beings and the bad marriage is selfishness and possession and also fear.
However I hadn’t been married but my parents were divorced 8 years ago. I’m 33 from Hungary.

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By: Laura http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15040 Laura Thu, 30 May 2013 17:44:04 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15040 Hey Andy, i think it's kind of funny what the chinese clerk did and it's interesting that a lot of couples obviously didn't return. Either they changed their minds or they simply went to another office but i totally agree with u. I'm also more traditional and for me it's not a positive process that there are more divorces nowadays. If u decide to marry then u have to be aware of that u have to go through good and bad times. I think it's a general problem today that everything is more easy to get and people think that they can find someone better. I'm 31 years old, from Germany and single. My parents are divorced and despite that bad experience i can imagine to marry one day... Hey Andy,

i think it’s kind of funny what the chinese clerk did and it’s interesting that a lot of couples obviously didn’t return. Either they changed their minds or they simply went to another office but i totally agree with u. I’m also more traditional and for me it’s not a positive process that there are more divorces nowadays. If u decide to marry then u have to be aware of that u have to go through good and bad times. I think it’s a general problem today that everything is more easy to get and people think that they can find someone better. I’m 31 years old, from Germany and single. My parents are divorced and despite that bad experience i can imagine to marry one day…

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By: ELHM http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15039 ELHM Thu, 30 May 2013 14:20:42 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15039 Hi there, I am from Iran, I am single and 25. you know, I've read your story and I like the work the the chines woman do, maybe I if I were her, I would do the same thing. I also like some parts of your note, as an instance where you said" I think many young couples don’t treat marriage seriously like they did in the past" and "I don’t think marriage should be treated lightly or like a total joke. It’s more than just a piece of paper in my mind." anyway, I guess this a global problem. even here in Iran which have almost traditional people, younger couple sometimes decided to get divorced only because of some stupid reasons. However I wish you and all of the young person in the world a successful marriage. Hi there, I am from Iran, I am single and 25.
you know, I’ve read your story and I like the work the the chines woman do, maybe I if I were her, I would do the same thing.
I also like some parts of your note, as an instance where you said” I think many young couples don’t treat marriage seriously like they did in the past” and “I don’t think marriage should be treated lightly or like a total joke. It’s more than just a piece of paper in my mind.”

anyway, I guess this a global problem. even here in Iran which have almost traditional people, younger couple sometimes decided to get divorced only because of some stupid reasons.

However I wish you and all of the young person in the world a successful marriage.

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By: Stella http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15038 Stella Thu, 30 May 2013 11:59:29 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15038 Hi you , For me, marriage is serious thing, I think in my country most of the people are traditional on this thing( even though more and more people are getting not so traditional), it's like a strong family culture that deeply rooted in this country's thousands years of history. first, I regard marriage as a kind of an oath, and I believe everyone should think twice before they get into a marriage. As long as you are in a marriage, it means you have prepared to work on it, means you know there can be hardship in a marriage, but you both like to do something for it. I say this doesn't mean I don't agree for divorce for some horrible marriage,I just want to say on the one hand, in most of the cases, a horrible marriage comes from that the couple didn't think clear before they are being a family, on the other hand, if you don't like your wife(or husband) for some reasons, you can't ganrantee your next would be the perfect one.we learn how to understand each other in a marriage, and a good marriage makes both a better person. Another, usually when two people get married, they would have children, it is bad for a child growing up in a single family. So, in a word, I agree to treat marriage serious, think twice before you get into it.it means responsibility. by the way, I am 23 year old from China ( where you can't see youtube,hah^.^ ) Hi you ,
For me, marriage is serious thing, I think in my country most of the people are traditional on this thing( even though more and more people are getting not so traditional), it’s like a strong family culture that deeply rooted in this country’s thousands years of history.
first, I regard marriage as a kind of an oath, and I believe everyone should think twice before they get into a marriage. As long as you are in a marriage, it means you have prepared to work on it, means you know there can be hardship in a marriage, but you both like to do something for it.
I say this doesn’t mean I don’t agree for divorce for some horrible marriage,I just want to say on the one hand, in most of the cases, a horrible marriage comes from that the couple didn’t think clear before they are being a family, on the other hand, if you don’t like your wife(or husband) for some reasons, you can’t ganrantee your next would be the perfect one.we learn how to understand each other in a marriage, and a good marriage makes both a better person.
Another, usually when two people get married, they would have children, it is bad for a child growing up in a single family.
So, in a word, I agree to treat marriage serious, think twice before you get into it.it means responsibility.
by the way, I am 23 year old from China ( where you can’t see youtube,hah^.^ )

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By: behnaz http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15037 behnaz Wed, 29 May 2013 15:38:54 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15037 hi andy.. it was a good topic. as you said its not just a piece of writing..its ur life..its ur time which pass with one u love.. i had some proposal but it was really hard to decide..cause i am not a simple minded person..i think i have to evaluate the situation,his family culture his behavior and believes..so when u decide u have to be sure cause u cant go back you have one choice and you have to decide if he makes u happy or not and write a lot of reason that u thing its a great choice..so if u two face some little problems that is usual in all marriages u can read that paper and make ur self calm.. its ur main choice in life..indeed u can love one boy in ur whole life and u have one choice..every thing will be OK if u thought enough about ur partner,u can easily solve problems and u don't need to get divorce.. i am 20 year old girl from iran.. hi andy..
it was a good topic.
as you said its not just a piece of writing..its ur life..its ur time which pass with one u love.. i had some proposal but it was really hard to decide..cause i am not a simple minded person..i think i have to evaluate the situation,his family culture his behavior and believes..so when u decide u have to be sure cause u cant go back you have one choice and you have to decide if he makes u happy or not and write a lot of reason that u thing its a great choice..so if u two face some little problems that is usual in all marriages u can read that paper and make ur self calm.. its ur main choice in life..indeed u can love one boy in ur whole life and u have one choice..every thing will be OK if u thought enough about ur partner,u can easily solve problems and u don’t need to get divorce.. i am 20 year old girl from iran..

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By: Hamid Reza http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15035 Hamid Reza Wed, 29 May 2013 12:10:39 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15035 I totally agree with you Andrew. That hot chick is absolutely ridiculous and simple minded. I totally believe that marriage is a holy and sacred bonding between man and women. If they just wanna get divorced because of such stupid dispute being common among couples, I think we should stop them. The point is you can not absolutely find a partner who 100% fulfills your requirement. Having different idea is something usual in relationship among partners, but I definitely believe that this makes life more interesting and entertaining. On the other hand, this dispute adds color to couple's life. Just for the god's sake, imagine for a sec having a partner agreeing with you all the time. How boring life is gonna be!!!!! But also we should keep in mind, even when an argue goes up, never ever never ever cross the line and do do respect your partner and never use such dirt words that make you say "excuse me" later. If you are in a real dispute and you see that you can not control the condition just "leave the place". I totally agree with you Andrew. That hot chick is absolutely ridiculous and simple minded. I totally believe that marriage is a holy and sacred bonding between man and women. If they just wanna get divorced because of such stupid dispute being common among couples, I think we should stop them. The point is you can not absolutely find a partner who 100% fulfills your requirement. Having different idea is something usual in relationship among partners, but I definitely believe that this makes life more interesting and entertaining. On the other hand, this dispute adds color to couple’s life. Just for the god’s sake, imagine for a sec having a partner agreeing with you all the time. How boring life is gonna be!!!!! But also we should keep in mind, even when an argue goes up, never ever never ever cross the line and do do respect your partner and never use such dirt words that make you say “excuse me” later. If you are in a real dispute and you see that you can not control the condition just “leave the place”.

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By: Abdul Khalil http://china232.com/blog/learning-and-improving-english/different-cultures-and-marriage#comment-15033 Abdul Khalil Wed, 29 May 2013 10:36:18 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=299#comment-15033 The lady in the divorce department in China does an amazing job. She realizes that couples get mad at every tits and tats and run for divorce. Once, they are separated then, they realize who he or she was in their lives. When someone marries, in fact he/she is completing part of his or her life with that person. So, when they get divorced, it is like hell-they will be lonely and will think of the broken relation everyday. I am totally agreed with both you and the lady. Wish you all the best. Thanks, Khalil The lady in the divorce department in China does an amazing job. She realizes that couples get mad at every tits and tats and run for divorce. Once, they are separated then, they realize who he or she was in their lives. When someone marries, in fact he/she is completing part of his or her life with that person. So, when they get divorced, it is like hell-they will be lonely and will think of the broken relation everyday. I am totally agreed with both you and the lady. Wish you all the best.

Thanks,

Khalil

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