Comments on: Be Yourself. Is This Good Advice? http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice?utm_source=rss&utm_medium=rss&utm_campaign=be-yourself-is-this-good-advice Learn about us and learn English! Fri, 02 Jan 2026 15:25:00 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.4.2 By: maciek http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-19869 maciek Thu, 16 Oct 2014 18:30:48 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-19869 Being real yourself it is not as easy as it sounds. People tend to put different mask depending on environment they are currently in. People in my work expect some kind of behaviour from me (for sure not the ones that I deal every day with - they already know me quite good ; ) ) but still there are some situations and people not necessarily in work that makes me act and behave accordingly to let say general code of behaviour. For sure I would not call it being fake. For me being yourself is acting the way you feel comfortable with. Even though I act and behave differently in work it does not make me feel uncomfortabel whatsoever. I try to being myself and not faking at all and expect it from other people - who want to deal with someone who is faking all the time ? The problem is if someone's real behaviour offends other people, makes them feel uncomfortable. Things are getting worse if these people are not aware of the impact of their behaviour. So being yourself unfortunately does not always work, what I mean is I do not mind being yourself as long as it does not offend anyone. If you are this person it is advisable to start working on you personality ; ). It does not mean that I am afraid of saying my real opinion on different subjects, but sometimes I prefer not saying something especially when it comes to music or clothing taste becasue I know it is not that important. Being yourself for me is to act the way that defines the person you really are in terms of your outlook upon life, the way that will not make you regret doing things that you did the day before. Being real yourself it is not as easy as it sounds. People tend to put different mask depending on environment they are currently in. People in my work expect some kind of behaviour from me (for sure not the ones that I deal every day with – they already know me quite good ; ) ) but still there are some situations and people not necessarily in work that makes me act and behave accordingly to let say general code of behaviour. For sure I would not call it being fake.
For me being yourself is acting the way you feel comfortable with. Even though I act and behave differently in work it does not make me feel uncomfortabel whatsoever. I try to being myself and not faking at all and expect it from other people – who want to deal with someone who is faking all the time ? The problem is if someone’s real behaviour offends other people, makes them feel uncomfortable. Things are getting worse if these people are not aware of the impact of their behaviour. So being yourself unfortunately does not always work, what I mean is I do not mind being yourself as long as it does not offend anyone. If you are this person it is advisable to start working on you personality ; ). It does not mean that I am afraid of saying my real opinion on different subjects, but sometimes I prefer not saying something especially when it comes to music or clothing taste becasue I know it is not that important. Being yourself for me is to act the way that defines the person you really are in terms of your outlook upon life, the way that will not make you regret doing things that you did the day before.

]]> By: elierre http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-15225 elierre Mon, 08 Jul 2013 11:24:33 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-15225 I'd like to make an addition, as it turned out I hadn't read all the comments prior I was typing mine. I'm so glad to see, that Andy and Ad sound so reasonable in the question of being politically correct. I haven't talked to American or Canadian people a lot, but from some American movies, interviews and TV-shows I saw that absurd, cut way of expressing opinions not to hurt some imaginary one (it seems like that imaginary one is the worst human enemy, all he or she is doing all the time is searching for any reason to declare him or herself insulted and to file lawsuit against somebody and that's the way of that human enemy to destroy one human being after another until there isn't any left).I was very surprised to learn, that you guys think in quite a different way that I thought all the Americans (and Canadians) would think! I found Andy's comment to ASAD just brilliant: it is smart, it is respectful and it is open-minded. Thank you guys for sharing your personal opinions with us. I’d like to make an addition, as it turned out I hadn’t read all the comments prior I was typing mine.
I’m so glad to see, that Andy and Ad sound so reasonable in the question of being politically correct. I haven’t talked to American or Canadian people a lot, but from some American movies, interviews and TV-shows I saw that absurd, cut way of expressing opinions not to hurt some imaginary one (it seems like that imaginary one is the worst human enemy, all he or she is doing all the time is searching for any reason to declare him or herself insulted and to file lawsuit against somebody and that’s the way of that human enemy to destroy one human being after another until there isn’t any left).I was very surprised to learn, that you guys think in quite a different way that I thought all the Americans (and Canadians) would think!
I found Andy’s comment to ASAD just brilliant: it is smart, it is respectful and it is open-minded.
Thank you guys for sharing your personal opinions with us.

]]> By: elierre http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-15224 elierre Mon, 08 Jul 2013 10:50:11 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-15224 I think, that ‘being yourself” thing is at least threefold. 1.How do you feel about expressing your “just-right-now’ self – emotions. 2.How do you feel about expressing your more or less constant self – feelings, belief system, principles. 3.Have you ever felt your “deep inside”, “real” you and how do you act about it – your real wishes and likes about yourself and world around, your wishes and likes in comparison with what you’ve actually got now, and your ways to deal with it. I see, that most of the people yelling about being themselves mean p. 1 only. They need a right to name any person they don’t like a jerk or a stupid moron and that’s it. They think they for some reason have a right to behave in their worst and all the other people just have to accept it without any complaint. But for me “being myself” is much more about p.p. 3 (mainly) and 2. If you know, e.g., that your biggest dream is to write songs, you do write songs and feel joy in your heart as you do things you really like, it can be a point of a minor importance not to release your momentary emotion: you consciously have much more quality fun. I’ve lucked to know some people, that do succeed to find their own way to work for living. They are not really easy to deal with. But the others tend to admit them as they feel that those people have goals, they’re happy, they’re genuine. The others feel that those lucky people have a right to be themselves. I think if a person starts dealing with him or herself from deep inside (p. 3) and would do that honestly and sincere, then the person would feel comfortable about p.p. 2 & 1. P.p. 2 & 1 would be settled without any noticeable labor. I myself don’t belong to that lucky category that found their own way in life, but I’ve got some guidelines to deal with everyday life not to feel, that I’m always trying to be someone else. It’s all about the work, cause in personal life I’m happy to have friends with whom I can act naturally. So, at work I always keep in mind, that I socially rent myself to do something for living. Keeping that in mind helps me to do my work in the best possible way, although I distinguish myself and my work emotionally. I try not to talk much with those colleagues I depend on and with those I don’t like; I try to keep friendly distance. I let my deeds (=the work being done) speak for myself. It saves me a lot of inner resources not to laugh out loud to silly jokes just for money or promotion or not to take part in gossips and to feel by the end of the day that I’m sort of bartering my soul for some kind of gain. And, of course, I try to spend my spare time doing things, that I really like and meeting people, that I really like. Sometimes it is even more important to spend some time by my own self. Just to be alone in silence, to black out inner dialogue, to avoid thinking at all. It’s some kind of meditation, that allows dealing with deep inner “me”. And if I was doing something wrong lately it helps me to feel it and to change the direction. It’s really useful and I recommend it to all, who would like to feel really “themselves”. And finally some gurlie approach. I hate guys trying to be very socially acceptable: behaving way too polite, easily taking one opinion or the opposite, laughing out loud even if my joke is stupid and not funny at all. All that sucks. I like to see the guy’s personality, even if I wouldn’t like it very much, I would be grateful to him for being himself. I think no serious relationship is possible without it. I think, that ‘being yourself” thing is at least threefold.
1.How do you feel about expressing your “just-right-now’ self – emotions.
2.How do you feel about expressing your more or less constant self – feelings, belief system, principles.
3.Have you ever felt your “deep inside”, “real” you and how do you act about it – your real wishes and likes about yourself and world around, your wishes and likes in comparison with what you’ve actually got now, and your ways to deal with it.
I see, that most of the people yelling about being themselves mean p. 1 only. They need a right to name any person they don’t like a jerk or a stupid moron and that’s it. They think they for some reason have a right to behave in their worst and all the other people just have to accept it without any complaint.
But for me “being myself” is much more about p.p. 3 (mainly) and 2. If you know, e.g., that your biggest dream is to write songs, you do write songs and feel joy in your heart as you do things you really like, it can be a point of a minor importance not to release your momentary emotion: you consciously have much more quality fun. I’ve lucked to know some people, that do succeed to find their own way to work for living. They are not really easy to deal with. But the others tend to admit them as they feel that those people have goals, they’re happy, they’re genuine. The others feel that those lucky people have a right to be themselves.
I think if a person starts dealing with him or herself from deep inside (p. 3) and would do that honestly and sincere, then the person would feel comfortable about p.p. 2 & 1. P.p. 2 & 1 would be settled without any noticeable labor.
I myself don’t belong to that lucky category that found their own way in life, but I’ve got some guidelines to deal with everyday life not to feel, that I’m always trying to be someone else. It’s all about the work, cause in personal life I’m happy to have friends with whom I can act naturally. So, at work I always keep in mind, that I socially rent myself to do something for living. Keeping that in mind helps me to do my work in the best possible way, although I distinguish myself and my work emotionally. I try not to talk much with those colleagues I depend on and with those I don’t like; I try to keep friendly distance. I let my deeds (=the work being done) speak for myself. It saves me a lot of inner resources not to laugh out loud to silly jokes just for money or promotion or not to take part in gossips and to feel by the end of the day that I’m sort of bartering my soul for some kind of gain. And, of course, I try to spend my spare time doing things, that I really like and meeting people, that I really like. Sometimes it is even more important to spend some time by my own self. Just to be alone in silence, to black out inner dialogue, to avoid thinking at all. It’s some kind of meditation, that allows dealing with deep inner “me”. And if I was doing something wrong lately it helps me to feel it and to change the direction. It’s really useful and I recommend it to all, who would like to feel really “themselves”.
And finally some gurlie approach. I hate guys trying to be very socially acceptable: behaving way too polite, easily taking one opinion or the opposite, laughing out loud even if my joke is stupid and not funny at all. All that sucks. I like to see the guy’s personality, even if I wouldn’t like it very much, I would be grateful to him for being himself. I think no serious relationship is possible without it.

]]> By: loi http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-15141 loi Fri, 21 Jun 2013 20:44:37 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-15141 When I´m with my friends or just people I know I state my opinions but i really defend them because I now that people are different and have their own ideas, so I pretty much just speak my mind but don´t really care much about the opinions of others, I just listen and laugh off the topic if I desagree and if i agree I might actually keep on talking about it, what`s the point of making people mad or making myself mad when the whole point of hanging out with somebody is to have fun... at least that´s my opinion :D greetings! When I´m with my friends or just people I know I state my opinions but i really defend them because I now that people are different and have their own ideas, so I pretty much just speak my mind but don´t really care much about the opinions of others, I just listen and laugh off the topic if I desagree and if i agree I might actually keep on talking about it, what`s the point of making people mad or making myself mad when the whole point of hanging out with somebody is to have fun… at least that´s my opinion :D greetings!

]]> By: Samantha http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14836 Samantha Tue, 14 May 2013 07:25:46 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14836 Yes! I totally agree with the point "to be yourself"! Actually I don't like to cater to someone in some occassions such as date,party or meeting. If you go out with someone and you just say or act what may catch her or his eyes but all are not true about yourself. Then, the date may get succeed.But you have to hide the reality of yourself in front of her or his all the time. I can imagine how tired it will be. So I'd like to keep to be myself and makethe life easy. Yes! I totally agree with the point “to be yourself”! Actually I don’t like to cater to someone in some occassions such as date,party or meeting.
If you go out with someone and you just say or act what may catch her or his eyes but all are not true about yourself. Then, the date may get succeed.But you have to hide the reality of yourself in front of her or his all the time. I can imagine how tired it will be.
So I’d like to keep to be myself and makethe life easy.

]]> By: grace http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14817 grace Mon, 13 May 2013 00:26:41 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14817 Hi 232! I've been busy lately and I missed you😊simply be yourself, for as long as you don't offend somebody else's feelings intentionally.. And if you do just say sorry.. We can't please everybody anyway. Hi 232!
I’ve been busy lately and I missed you😊simply be yourself, for as long as you don’t offend somebody else’s feelings intentionally.. And if you do just say sorry.. We can’t please everybody anyway.

]]> By: hieuvm http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14795 hieuvm Sat, 11 May 2013 13:04:44 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14795 just be yourself and be a man. just be yourself and be a man.

]]> By: sima http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14748 sima Wed, 08 May 2013 19:43:31 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14748 hi guys.look we have a word in persian called( pofuzi) i myself always used it for a fake personality, acceptin yourself as you are without any shame is the biggest aim of any person on earth in my opinion. hi guys.look we have a word in persian called( pofuzi) i myself always used it for a fake personality, acceptin yourself as you are without any shame is the biggest aim of any person on earth in my opinion.

]]> By: Yacoub http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14736 Yacoub Wed, 08 May 2013 06:55:59 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14736 I think it's healthy for improving one's experience to deal with real people. We learn the langauge to use it in the real work. So being offensive to some people is healthy for all becuase it provokes argument and eventually enriches the language acquisition. Thanks for the great jobs guys. I think it’s healthy for improving one’s experience to deal with real people. We learn the langauge to use it in the real work. So being offensive to some people is healthy for all becuase it provokes argument and eventually enriches the language acquisition. Thanks for the great jobs guys.

]]> By: OMAR http://china232.com/blog/self-improvement/be-yourself-is-this-good-advice#comment-14727 OMAR Sun, 05 May 2013 04:56:13 +0000 http://china232.com/blog/?p=284#comment-14727 You just confirmed my theory that no matter the nationality, all human beings have the same concerns. I always consider that being ourselves implies responsabilities. I can be myself as long as I make sure that self is the best I can be. In your particular case I think you must be yourself but make sure that person is the best you can be and that you have great things to share with the ones who like your material. THANKS FOR YOUR WONDERFUL JOB. Keep it up!!! Regards Omar You just confirmed my theory that no matter the nationality, all human beings have the same concerns. I always consider that being ourselves implies responsabilities. I can be myself as long as I make sure that self is the best I can be.
In your particular case I think you must be yourself but make sure that person is the best you can be and that you have great things to share with the ones who like your material.

THANKS FOR YOUR WONDERFUL JOB.

Keep it up!!!

Regards
Omar

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