Why This Asian Girl Won’t Date Asian Men..
First of all,
The purpose of me posting this is to get a debate going and help you improve your written English. I want to help you make your points clearer and sharper using English. This kind of practice will help your writing and your speaking big time. The idea is to help you feel like you won’t always say things like, “I know what I want to say but I just don’t know how to say it well in English”. We’re going to be doing a lot more of this in the VIP section coming up. This is a free one for you guys to get the idea of practicing your debating skills and proving a point.
I want you to read the article and then tell me what you think of this girl. Is she a racist? Is she wrong for thinking what she thinks? Should she be allowed to have her own opinion? Is this unhealthy thinking? Please explain what you think and how you feel when you read this. There is a lot of stuff to talk about and I’ll share my thoughts after I hear from you guys.
Remember, I didn’t write it. These are not my thoughts. I’m just sharing something to talk about together in English. I’m very interested in this discussion and I think it will be helpful. Here is the article from this girl:
This Asian Girl Won’t Date Asian Men
Please share your thoughts after reading. These debates WILL improve your English fast!
September 9th, 2012 at 11:33 am
I would like to quote the same sentence”I know but i don’t know how to tell well in english. Asian women thinks that all the glitters are gold. And one more think scientific study revealed that these kinds of couples getting highly talented childrens
September 9th, 2012 at 12:42 pm
Hello guys. The first thing that caught my impression, and I think that is a silly someone with black skin say it is racist. More would have suited say she hates culture. The fact that he grew up in America makes me think why she loves to meet white men, and why like everything in white culture. And here I will say that the grass is always greener……..
Everything else is its comparisons, which I do not want to comment.
September 9th, 2012 at 2:55 pm
In my opinion this girl has got serious problems. Mental ones. She is trying to convince all of us how American she is. But that’s just the way she is concealing her insecurity with herself. Dating “white” men she is fighting with her mental problems although it would be better to try to solve them.
Besides I’m almost shocked the way she makes a statement about racism. She claims to be a racist as if it was a normal thing. But it is not and it never was. Ironically she is talking about being a true American and simultaneously making that terrible statements about racism which seems a conflict of opposites for me. Cause where else than in America they are trying to eradicate racism so strong.
What makes it even worse that she is probably not the only one having this kind of problem. Sad.
Regards, Oksana
September 9th, 2012 at 4:02 pm
Would love to hear more opinions boys and girls. Thanks for the thoughts so far. Great to see you guys writing! I’ll get my opinion in there after I see a lot of action here.
September 9th, 2012 at 5:09 pm
I am an ukrainian. I dont date ukrainians, italians or arabics. Ask me why? Well, I dont try to prove smb smth… I dont date them just because I have more common in thinking with european people that love to work hard, to be precise, to be honest in relationships, to value true love.. I could write a lot. I dated those other men, I have travelled and met lots different people to make my decision why I won’t date one of those men. You might argue and I would agree – for sure, THERE ARE exceptions. There ARE great italian, ukrainian or arabic men. But they are so rare
I still meet the majority of people that think different – without silly stereotypes and living strictly in box of traditions and rules – in Western Europe.
So I am not a racist. I think people are beautiful in their difference. It is just smth that I find for me personally good or not. And if the girl finds that for some reasons she is more happy with white guys – then great for her, she knows at least what she wants ))) And there is very hard to say whether her thoughts are right or not, because each of us has different understanding for what is good and what is not.
September 9th, 2012 at 6:40 pm
Hello guys,
Thanks for the open subject, it’s really awesome sharing ideas this way. However,
As we all know that this world is small and in all races we can see the difference between people, as we call here “Your fingers are not the same.” Plus, it’s her opinion of doing what she feel is the best for her and myself I’m living this story, I’m so happy even the total change and difference in my life BUT I’m so glad and happy with my lovely partner.
Thank you for giving us the opportunity to share and write and I hope my comment was fair.
Keep up the Good Work guys, You are indeed awesome and I truly like your stuff.
A,
September 9th, 2012 at 11:51 pm
Generally I support Oksana’s point of view. It seems the girl solves her own problems of self-esteem at the expense of white people. I am pretty sure at the expense of american white guys only, as she doesnt mention other nations, and as she lives in the USA.
As I know nothing about minority problems in USA I can’t judge her. Everyone lives as he can. At least she is sincere and doesnt’ hide her thoughts and motives. As for me , the famous phrase “I’ve always wanted to be with an Russian girl” (in my case Russian because I am russian) it is a signal that the guy probably has some mental problems or low self-esteem, or kind of communication problems with girls of his nation or obession about russian girls or something else, that certainly doesnt make him attractive.
By the way , why thai girls date old white mens?
But as long as both sides – asian girls and white dudes are satisfied, I dont consider it as a big public issue, it’s just their own private stuff
September 10th, 2012 at 12:36 am
it’s ok..it’s matter of personal taste!!
nobody complains about that kind of taste!!
most of all, the world of us become a melting pot, inevitably!!
all becomes mixed up ..whole one of Earth Planet in someday!
September 10th, 2012 at 4:41 am
What does “healty dash” mean in the context of the article?
September 10th, 2012 at 6:22 am
I’m sure she’ll be changing with age and won’t be so categorical. Certainly she has right for her own choice of her culture (I agree with one of previous opinion that it’s not a racial issue but cultural). As for me, funny, some time ago I believed that I didn’t want to date and get married Russian men (or european or american), because I was convinced Indian men are the best for family life! Now it sounds a bit funny to me. Sometimes we tend to see and accept only advantages of other culture but don’t want to see and tolerate some disadvantages of those. But being honest to ourselves, we must learn to see the whole picture. It comes with experience and age. Every young can express thoughts like this girl, every young is a bit maximalist.
September 10th, 2012 at 6:25 am
It’s probably because Asian guys’ respects for women are limited in a narrow sense. Opinions such as my girlfriend has to be a virgin or else she is immoral still exist,and some still give their wives or girlfriends “a lesson” in public to show their “masculine” side by humiliating them. When Asian guys require women to be as traditional as decades ago, Asian girls have leap forward to catch the pace of the flatted world. Therefore, many Asian girls for somehow feel less respected by Asian boys in many ways. Coveting a green card, a foreign ID or wealth are not necessarily linked with cross- culture relationships nowadays. However, it’s too radical to wrap up this issue simply as racism as the author in the article did. By discriminating Asian guys, she just revealed how much she hates herself. No matter what she does, she can never be WASP which is a fact. Marry to or date white people won’t make her superior or different at all. The only way to fit in the society is to know who you are and what you can do.No one will contempt you because of your color if you can be Obama or Jordan etc.
September 10th, 2012 at 6:36 am
This poor girl is really lonely and sad and most of all she totally doesn’t know where where she belongs to, what her roots are…
She doesn’t know Who She Is
She is just too young to experience challenges in her life
It looks to me like a kid yelling Please help me out of this cage, I cannot breathe anymore, help me, somebody help me. Please! P-l-e-a-s-e; crying
but
nobody listens; in fact SHE doesn’t want to listen to them…she is so used to her cage (cell) that she is attached to it
and so she will yell and shout until she finds out that she can just open the door and fly and breathe like the day she was born
Good luck!
September 10th, 2012 at 6:40 am
Hey Guys,
Thanks so much for your thoughts on that article. I’m going to write a separate blog post now to tell you what I think about it. I’d love to hear your comments!
September 10th, 2012 at 7:02 am
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September 10th, 2012 at 7:15 am
I can understand her problem and wouldn’t say she is more insane than the average. It is OK when a young man finds the reason why the world doesn’t work properly and starts to deal with the “evil”. It sounds to me like a generation rebellion amplified by the racial dimension. Anyway, I’d wonder if this will be still her issue in ten years.
Milan, Czech Rep, Europe
September 10th, 2012 at 8:13 am
I’ve dated both asian and white guys.
They are obviously different in general manners but I have no racial preference.
I slightly prefer white guys who are less patriachal than asian guys more but there are still many modern asian guys with cool manners whom I might like better than any westerners. I’ve dated asian guys from China, Malaysia, Singapore and Korea and white guys from the US, Canada and the UK-I didn’t eager to date all of them but had many chances to meet many people from different countries as I was in overseas studying and working. The reason why I don’t prefer only white guys is “I am the one wanted” by guys of any races, unlike the girl posted the article who seems to have an inferity complex apparently on her look and race.
She needs to be lovable before judging asian or whatever races to love-and I don’t think she loves white guys, but is just obsessed with white guys to sneak in to the westen culture and society f$%#ing her ass off.
I used to date an american guy in Korea and I found many people gossiped about asian sluts being crazy in white guys’ c*&k(I hate to swear but it was their expressions) which was very offensive. The american guy asked me to go out with him and I liked him so we were together for a couple of weeks, but I had to break up with him because of streotypical people talking bad about asian girl like me dating white guys but unlike me fancying white guys only. I thought we wouldn’t mind that kind of b*llsh&t as long as we like each other but I found that those inter racial couples should love each other very much then finally they can overcome and never mind of this kind of gossips that has probably come up because of the people like the post-writer. It is terribly humiliating to all the asian girls who don’t fancy white guys only but have their own choices to love any races.
September 10th, 2012 at 8:30 am
Interesting points Serena. I’m a white guy in Asia, as you know. I’ve certainly noticed that there are a lot of stereotypes and pressure given to the Asian girl who chooses a white guy. For some weird reason, the white guy doesn’t experience this pressure.
If he can find a hot Asian chick, he’s considered cool by his friends. It’s definitely an unfair double standard.
One thing is for sure. This world is full of jealousy, stupidity, and retarded thinking.
It only makes sense for everyone to date who makes YOU happy, not who makes “other people happy”. It takes some courage, but the world is slowly changing. The world is more open minded (slowly) and the cultural differences are slowly going away.
At least it’s much more accepted now than it was 30 years ago. I’m sure in another 30 years, this won’t even be a topic worth mentioning.
September 10th, 2012 at 7:41 pm
maybe she doesnt have any idea of how much pleasure an asian can give her and the beauty of many things from asia..a very materialistic girl..have pitty on her..
September 10th, 2012 at 8:37 pm
I’m a Japanese. I think she is too young to know who she is. In my opinion, people love their same rase bacause of thay are one of them. I love Japanese, but that is not because of I like yellow skin particularlly or I happen to like Asian face specially. I love Japanese because of I’m a Japanese. Many people might say different thing, but I think this way. When she born a baby, I don’t know she has an experience but I think she must not have, she realize who she is, and who her mather and father used to be. And when she see her baby, she will know she can’t escape from being an Asian. People are binded to their races, I think that’s obvious and also welcome. Or I have to think it welcome. Not only me, everyone couldn’d escape from that.
September 10th, 2012 at 11:05 pm
We’re all going to be one color one day in the future. Then racism will be gone forever because we’ll all be the same mix. What do you think?
September 11th, 2012 at 3:11 am
same sentiment china232
September 11th, 2012 at 4:15 am
I like your comment of ‘It only makes sense for everyone to date who makes YOU happy, not who makes “other people happy”’.
Alright, then… I should probably date asian guys as of now then shift to white guys after 30 years. lol kd
I’d like to comment on your opinion I overally agree with but partially want to point out.
I ever had a sort of argument with the american ex about how white guys living in Asia think about asian women.
They are very much aware of how well they are liked and esteemed by most of the asians which has made some of them think they are extremly superiorer than asians and it’s often abused in a relationship with asian girls.
I am not blaming white guys only on this but certainly there are many asian girls like the post writer who love white guys more than asians.
My point of view is that those so-thought “superior” white guys think all the asian girls are easy to ‘get’-I don’t wanna use a mean word but in many ways of ‘getting/having’.
Of course there are many white guys even my close friends love his asian wife and I don’t dare to judge those sincere love.
On the other hand, some/many white guys in Asian countries including my aussie friend, however, have admitted that they can be so popular with no efforts in Asia.
Well, it is not a problem because everyone does want to be popular but what I am concerning is that those white guys use their skin colour to ‘get’ hot asian chicks to show off how a little abilities he has got to use to hook up a nice one, not how much they simply love their girlfriend no matter what her skin colour is.
Concerning that every guys’ spontaneous eager/behaviour of wanting to show off their hot girls, it is still considered inappropriate if they are using their ‘superiority’ to take advantage of those sincerely-to-be-loved girls-should be a different story if the girls are also taking advantage of being with white guys though.
I unintentionally read all these kind of articles written in harsh words with lots of swearing probably by ‘some’ asian guys-’losers’- complaining about stupid asian girls being crazy in white guys and the white guys taking advantage of it and I felt pretty down with these messy and selfish relationships in racism not just around the world but just in a small country where in Korea and apparently in many asian countries.
My apologies if my comment has been insulting or offensive, but this is the reality of what people really think and what I hope it to be better-as per what you said in 30 years hopefully before I get married (Laughing but pretty seriously).
Besides, hope many smart asian girls be able to notice and realise if the one flirting with them is not what kind.
In my very personal opinion, I never think that ridiculous theory works for all the white guys because of ex’s answer after listening to all I said, that
‘I will show&prove you with no explanation needed’.
September 11th, 2012 at 4:20 am
It seems very far future, like an epoch, I think. If it could be, her racism and my concern will disappear at all. But as she says, “as for now”, we have to gaze at real world. And in my opinion, when that occur, racism could change its face. I mean racism appears not only on skin color or so but also culture or place where they live. I mean that racism will remain as different shape at that time.
September 11th, 2012 at 12:42 pm
I guess this article about Asian girl was written by Andrew or maybe Addison.
) or by other men but don’t 100% by Asian girl 
I’m from Ukraine and also don’t date with anyone because I have only one woman and love her – she is my wife.
September 11th, 2012 at 3:14 pm
>Alexandr
There is no meaning on focusing on who wrote this. Let’s consentrante on discussing this thought.
What I wrote has double meaning. What desapear is concerning on what color skin we have or so, and what will remain is our concern itself. I mean that racism issue itself won’t desappear although we all would have same skin. Because race means skin color or so now, but in the epoch future where our skin color would be the same, it also have meaning by any other identification.
September 11th, 2012 at 4:17 pm
Cool! i’m so delighted today to leave my impression about this fascinating subject okay! first of all so if someone refuses dating a man or a woman that’s from the same continent or the same country as him perhaps he got his own reasons to do so, to me ain’t the real problem b’cause we ‘re all in the same boat that means we ‘re all God’s descendant so we don’t need to have a particularly problem to your mankind. That can happen you don’t need this or that one but never put blame on anyone wherever the continent, the country that he or she ‘s from ’cause God doesn’t put ut to this bad behavior so it’s time to change our attitude as well as our mentality. Never forget that no matter what color, social groups, country, continent we are or we come from so we ‘re all brothers and sisters . Thank you !!!!!
September 11th, 2012 at 8:48 pm
I don’t think it depends on cultures. If people really love each other, they can mix all kinds of races. It doesn’t matter if you are white or black. I would never support racism. It’s the most ridiculous thing ever, I mean it’s absolutely stupid to judge people and their color of skin. Apparently, the Chinese lady got tired of her culture and rules. It’s obvious that life in the U.S is totally different than life in China. It’s not like living in Canada and U.S. Pretty much everything is almost the same. I had the opportunity to try to live in the U.S. I moved there from Europe and I can see a lot of differences between the continents, especially when you compare it with Eastern Europe. Anyway, I really like living in the U.S. however; my life in Europe wasn’t bad at all !!!
By the way, thank you for this opportunity to practice my writing skills on your web site. Take care guys !!!
September 12th, 2012 at 11:39 am
You know, reading this article I realy have been surprised by attitude to own nation from Chines girl. I know all people different, but all Chines people that I have ever saw so proud of there country and history. Its like in a blood. If you proud of your country, I think you could not love the people of this country. May be this relation to boys is not completely from a heard in article. If you in love – no matter from what country you precious (I completely agree with Paul King).
September 12th, 2012 at 1:18 pm
Hi all!
I’m not exactly aware what word “racism” realy means?
To love your own race and nation is good,
To hate others is not. It’s obviously clear.
But how about your attitude toward your own race and nation?
I’ve met some Jewish guys who dislikes jews (even one hated them totally).
Is that racism?
I’m not sure…
Probably the girl (the article’s author) does not lie. (As I was saying I’ve met such persons). She perhaps wants to live in American environment but she’s one people and old environment doesn’t allow to do it and let she of.
Regards
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