I’m pretty excited for today’s blog. I love the topic. I’m even more excited to read your comments! I really want to let you guys know that even if you don’t realize it, it’s your comments that make me continue writing this blog. Trust me, I read them all and I think about them all. They make a big difference.
Ok….. Today’s topic is about “being yourself”. This phrase is used all the time in spoken English. It’s supposed to be good advice.
In most western countries (maybe other countries too), if you ask you parents for advice on how to act when you are on your first date, most of them will just tell you to “be yourself”. Everyone seems to agree with this idea of “being yourself”, but I honestly wonder if they are even thinking about it AT ALL when they give this kind of advice. I often think people just say things without really thinking about what they are saying. It drives me insane!
What does “be yourself” mean anyway? Basically it just means “don’t be fake” and “do and act the way that you feel is natural to you”.
Well, that sounds great, but what if the “real you” doesn’t work? What if people don’t like “the real you”? What if they are offended by your jokes or your personality? Should you change? or should you just keep “being yourself” and seeing what happens?
I’ve thought about this question a lot actually. I’ve thought about it for my entire life. Sometimes I even think about it when I make lessons for this website. I don’t want to offend or upset other people, but I still want to be my REAL self.
The reason this question is so important to me is because “the real me” doesn’t always work; not even close! Bosses and teachers often HATE the real me. They get embarrassed by my sense of humour, etc. (The truth is that I don’t like them either, but that’s another story)…..
After thinking about this question for years and years, I think I believe that I should try really hard to be myself. It’s too important. The truth is that I might miss out on certain opportunities because I’m not always obsessed with doing what society thinks is normal, but if I am not myself, I will end up feeling completely sick. And who wants to feel sick? That’s horrible.
The truth is that I never want to offend anyone. It’s never my goal. It’s also true that I don’t always have the same opinions as other people. We are all different to some extent.
So what should I do? Do I have to keep all my thoughts and opinions inside? Should I be afraid of accidentally offending someone who is overly sensitive in my opinion? I hope not…
It’s kind of a weird feeling when you make podcasts and videos. Trust me, I totally know 100% that I’m not some super famous person. But, over the years, millions of people have downloaded our podcasts and/or watched our videos. (It’s a lot more of the podcasts but the videos on learnenglish232.com will catch up fast). The point is that Add and I have seen tons of comments about our work. We know that we have fans, but we also know that thousands of people probably listen to 30 seconds of one podcast or watch a few seconds of one video and think “I hate these guys”, “This is boring”, “This sucks”, or WORSE. It’s only natural that this happens, it’s just a weird feeling when you experience it personally.
At the end of the day, I think Add and I have to keep on being ourselves and just being happy with it, no matter what happens. We certainly have to try to keep getting better and to be the absolute best we can, but we need to just be careful not to “change” anything about our fundamental “core” beliefs. We want to make the best stuff in the world for our REAL fans, and just forget about anyone who doesn’t really understand the whole point of the 232. Let’s face it, some people don’t get it.
Large companies have no personality because they are too worried about trying to make everyone happy. That’s not really our job. That seems too boring. I was talking to another popular online teacher about this the other day. He told me he has decided not to share his real thoughts and feelings with the world because he doesn’t want to “get into politics” or have to deal with all the emails from people he offends.
I totally understand his perspective, but Add and I have a different opinion on this. We want you guys to know the real us. We think it will make for much better lessons, and a much more interesting environment for real discussion and real English learning.
What do you guys think? Should we keep being ourselves? Should we worry about accidentally offending people with some of our jokes? Should we be even MORE like the real us?
We’d love to know your thoughts on this. One thing Add and I both love is brutal honesty; you know, the real truth. If you totally agree, please say so and why. If you totally disagree and think something we say or do is retarded or ridiculous, please say that too. Not just with this blog, but always. No matter what the feedback is, we love hearing the real truth. It makes everyone better and it makes the world more interesting.
Also, what about this question in YOUR own life? Are you your real self all the time? When, if ever, do you think it’s useful to be “fake”?
I hope this blog made sense, and I hope you found it at least somewhat interesting.
Ok………. I’m waiting for those comments guys! And girls
Oh ya… If you have ANY blog topic requests or video lesson requests, please write them in the comments and I’ll do my best to make that asap!